DEAR DEIDRE: MY lover and I meet for sex at least twice a week. He says he wants to be with me full-time but I am thinking about his two daughters at home.
He will be breaking their poor little hearts if he moves in with me.
We both work for a large firm in town.
I could tell he fancied me loads and he would always give me a special smile. I fancied him too and dreamed about being with him in his bed. He’s 42, as I later found out, and I’m 21.
One day I was leaving the office when I slipped on the steps. He was behind me and came to my aid.
He helped me to hop to a bench. I rubbed at my ankle and took some deep breaths, then he offered to drive me home.
After taking me to my flat he asked for my number — just to check I was doing OK, he said. He sent me a text that night and soon we were messaging ten times a day and the line of kisses at the end got longer each time.
He said he had feelings for me and I realised I felt the same way. That’s when the passionate meetings began.
The sex is amazing. He tells me he loves me and I tell him the same.
He says he wants to move into my flat. That would mean leaving his two little girls with their mum but he now sees his future with me. They are both under ten and that’s something I worry about.
Even though he already has these two girls, we’ve decided we want three or four kids of our own. I love to dream about this but I know that his children would stay with us part of the week so there won’t be much space.
I love him so much but I don’t want to rip him away from his kids. They are his world and he loves them to bits. I grew up without really knowing my dad and I don’t want his children to go through that pain just because he’s stopped loving their mum. What should I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: I think you know in your heart that you need to stop seeing this man. You’re half his age but you’re still showing more sense than him. You’re right that his being with you would impact terribly on the lives of his daughters.
I can add to those fears. The mum of his children believed in him once. Do you think you could really rely on him?
To be honest, I doubt he’d actually leave his children. He is spinning a fantasy line while enjoying the sex and the break from routine. You know you’re worth better than this so please call it a day and don’t risk getting pregnant with him.
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